“People aren't going to become there for you. This is exactly why you learn to handle things on your own.”
Some people say learning in groups allows you to see things from a different perspective and determine what you may not always pick up on when you're on your own. But what about the days when you're undoubtedly on your own with no group as a second option?
Truth be told, there are several lessons you have to learn flying solo. It may not always be the worst case scenario, but you will learn some of life's most important lessons this way.
Maybe you can relate; perhaps you have seen exactly the same situations arise in your lifetime over and over, and perhaps you've learned from them, too.
We realize that failure is a valuable part of learning. In the grand general scheme of things, failure is one of the most feared but most learned aspects of a persons existence. We are not here to perfect every waking detail in our lives. We are not defined by the failures and digressions in our past, but instead we're shaped from their store.
If I were to let you know I had never failed at something, I'd be lying. From racing me out only to finish outside the qualifying placement times in high school track and cross-country, to using stories thrown back in my face when writing attending college and beyond, I've found that taking criticism the right way is crucial to failing gracefully. Have you been called a sore loser? You shouldn't be that individual. Take every misstep in stride. Take that race and fare better the next time. Take that story and rewrite it as often when needed to show it into something brilliant. And within the grand scheme of things, failure has taken me to where I'm now.
We know that rejection is unavoidable at times but will help us learn to keep persevering. Not everyone is likely to like you. Not every employer normally takes you under their wing. Its not all potential love story is going to go your way. Learning to accept rejection and study from it'll only teach you to push tougher for what you want in everyday life. Learn to embrace rejection. There is a period of time of about a year now, where I'll open my email inbox hoping to see something about a potential full-time job interview for something I applied for. In reality, I get three approximately rejection emails a week stating that I don't have enough experience. I have plenty of experience, just not the business-y type that they are searching for. But it's ok. I'll keep trying because if I keep excelling within the part-time roles I've now, I'll learn something I might not have before.
J.K. Rowling was rejected many times before finally being accepted as an author of the favorite childhood wizarding series. Look where she ended up. People deal with rejection every day. Regardless if you are rejected by that hunk you saw at the cafe or else you are rejected being an artist or creator, take it in stride. The more rejections you get, the harder you attempt.
We know that honesty is the best policy for any situation. Regardless of how complicated the truth might be, it doesn't matter how hard seeking the truth seems, nothing can come from lying the right path via a difficult situation. Abraham Lincoln once asserted “no man includes a good enough memory to be a successful liar”. You cannot tell the truth to someone else and lying to you to ultimately maintain a peaceful existence. You want matters in life to stay simple? Tell the reality, no matter the cost. Creating an alternate reality from a string of lies forces you to reside in two separate worlds. Every day life is less complicated and pleasant with honesty, even if it takes a bit more effort, sincerity, and time.
We learn that personal success has nothing related to social status, how much money in your banking account, or even the number of friends you have. Even when I look successful in the eyes of another, it does not always mean I'm successful or feel that way. Outward success is nothing when compared with what you know you have labored to attain outside the spotlight.
Sure, Sometimes multiple jobs, long and late hours, and know how to conserve my money for future endeavors. That does not mean squat when it comes to achieving success. That just displays diligence. After i was at college, I studied Journalism and Communications. Collegiate journalism courses typically focus on newswriting and reporting. Because of this those were the kinds of jobs I requested upon graduation. NEWSFLASH: I haven't done a thing with newswriting since college. I find myself writing things i feel, things i see, what is trending, what is popular, and what interests me and others. I write for multiple online platforms, and i have recently been hired part-time with two prestigious companies based on the writing portfolio I have developed since graduation. And that i thoroughly enjoy what I do. Success means living your lifetime for yourself and never to impress other people.
And finally, we learn how to love ourselves like nobody else can. It’s as easy as this: you can’t learn how to love another person without showing yourself the same compassion. Grow to love every part of the being, from your imperfections and quirks to your beauty and successes. You will find yourself having a better outlook on life along with a montage of positivity and opportunity in your direction.
“None of the world's problems will have a solution before the world's individuals become thoroughly self-educated.” Buckminster Fuller hit the nail on the head with this one. As cliché as it might sound, we must change inside us to alter the world. If we discover the right things by ourselves and teach ourselves to alter the way we live, it will be amazing what strides we can make in groups. We just have to purchase ourselves the same ways we would invest in the planet.
